|
What To Talk About Sometimes it's hard to know what to say or what questions to ask when getting to know someone. On this page, you will find conversation topics and question that you can ask to get to know someone better. These are not organized in any particular order. College students had their conversations recorded and analyzed by researchers. Subjects who reported the greatest amount of satisfaction spent only 10% of their conversation on small talk. Kindness Counts. Point out nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, or good things on the news. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Ask lots of questions, but the key is to listen to the answers and form new questions around those. Even if the other person asks you a question, you answer and follow it with a question.
CHILDHOOD - Ask your partner what he or she was like as a kid. Did she make friends easily? What kind of games did he like to play? Did he have trouble in school? Childhood memories make for fun conversations, but they can also lend insight into how your main squeeze became the person he or she is today. FAMILY LIFE - Knowing a person's upbringing and relationship with his or her parents is paramount to understanding his current attitude toward family. If you're even slightly contemplating a future with this person, it might help to ask how well they get along with their parents. Why does she resent her mother? Why is he closer to his sisters than to his brothers? How does she handle family gatherings? FEARS AND INSECURITIES - What makes you wake up with gray hairs? What worries you? What do you want to improve in yourself? What skeletons are in your closet? In being vulnerable, you risk judgement, but more importantly, you chance being understood. CURRENT EVENTS - Thanks to the overflow of information, it's nearly impossible to stay up-to-date on everything going on around us. Here's where teamwork comes into play: Ask your partner about his interests, be they economics or regional politics, and see if you can't learn a thing or two. Who knows, maybe you'll help him develop an interest in international affairs or science news. TV AND MOVIES - Compared to politics and personal fears, entertainment might seem pretty shallow, but you can still learn a lot about someone by asking what their favorite movies are. Do they like classics? Comedy? Are they into documentaries? THE FUTURE - Talking about the future can be nerve-wracking. While we're not saying you should pressure your partner into talking about his plans for marriage and children, we do believe that whether he openly talks about them or you ask directly, you should know his dreams, goals, and aspirations. What is he working toward? What drives him to succeed? Where does he see himself in five years? Someone who desires growth and is not afraid of the unknown is surely dynamic enough to deserve you. PAST RELATIONSHIPS - This is a touchy one because no one wants to hear the person they're with spouting sonnets about an ex. There is, of course, a difference between longing for (or being bitter over) the past and simply acknowledging what happened. When you are in the early stages of getting to know someone, it's usually not a good idea to talk about past relationships. Save this topic for later. LIFE GOALS / AMBITIONS - Real love requires goals and aspirations, both individually and as a couple. You have to have plans and dreams, and agree on the future. You must help each other fulfill your hopes and dreams as individuals and as a couple. Figure out what you've always wanted to do—and do it. Find out what your partner wants in life and out of life. Figure out, early on, if you can and will support each other in achieving everything you've always wanted. It is important that you figure this out early on. GRUDGES / COMMON ENEMIES - "I try to get on the same team as her. And the easiest way to do that is to find a common enemy that we could both talk shit about." More topics: FAVORITE ACTIVITIES FAVORITE PLACES FAVORITE MEMORIES FAVORITE BOOKS PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE YOU INTERESTS / HOBBIES OPINIONS / BELIEFS POLITICAL VIEWPOINTS FAITH / VALUES EMBARRASSING MOMENTS FROM YOUR PAST FRIENDS TRAVEL SPORTS PETS Random Questions: What is your name? How old are you? When is your birthday? or which zodiac sign do you belong to? Where do you live? What is your favorite drink? Who is your favorite actor? What is the best thing that has ever happened to you? What is the most embarrassing moment of your life? What is your biggest regret in life? What career do you plan to pursue? If you had one word to describe yourself , what would it be? Which is your dream car/bike? If you could travel to anywhere in the world, where would it be? What is the worst relationship you have ever been in? What is your favorite pastime? What's your favorite midnight snack? Do you eat junk food everyday? What is the one food that you would never give up? What's your favorite horror movie? What is your weirdest quirk? Your favorite sundae topping? What is the one physical feature that you get complimented on most often? What are the 5 most important things in your life? How superstitious are you? What is the funniest thing that has ever happened to you? What three things would you take with you to an island? What is your worst dating experience? What is your one achievement that makes you the most proud? What is the one thing would I 'not' know about at the first meeting?
AVOID:
When communicating online, don't start your message by saying "Hello beautiful," or "Hey babe," or "You're so pretty!" Using this language is the fastest way to push yourself into the friend zone forever. Women do not like when men who don't know them very well comment about their looks.
Do not interrogate your date. The best tool is to simply listen
to them, be yourself, and enjoy the evening, and you’ll see the
person reveal himself or herself to you.
Don't use confrontation. Don't discuss strange topics.
Don't talk too much. People who speed-talk, interrogate, brag, blab the family secrets or don't allow you to have one single moment's peace of mind are control freaks. It's like they think that if they are not talking, that they don't somehow exist.
Keep swearing, unkind remarks, and prejudice out of your communications.
Not maintaining eye contact when you talk is a mistake.
If you call her, think first! She may have voicemail on. If you're leaving a voicemail, don't leave a second or third message.
Keep your message short, and don't forget to leave your name and phone number.
Accentuate the positive. When first meeting someone, don't talk about bad things about you.
ON FIRST DATE, DO NOT ASK, "Will you marry me?"
ON FIRST DATE, DO NOT SAY, "I think we're going to be great friends." - this will put you in the friend zone forever.
ON FIRST DATE, DO NOT LIE OR EMBELLISH THE STORY OF YOUR LIFE.
ON FIRST DATE, DON'T TELL "My family is crazy!" Don't talk about the drama that happened in your family--divorce, etc.
ON FIRST DATE, DON'T SAY, "Life just isn't working out for me right now"
ON FIRST DATE, DON'T TALK ABOUT YOUR INCOME
ON FIRST DATE, DON'T TALK ABOUT YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP
ON FIRST DATE, DON'T SHARE ANY SECRETS. On a first date, you have the right to withhold almost every unflattering fact until it is established that you like each other and want to pursue things.
ON FIRST DATE, DON'T SAY "I'm recovering from..."
ON FIRST DATE, DON'T SAY "I hate my job." or express that you have a negative outlook on life.
DON'T TALK ABOUT:
DO NOT SAY:
If she talks fast, you talk fast. Mirroring each other on a first date creates the impression of being on the same wavelength. Pay attention not only to what your bodies are doing but also to how your speech patterns match. If he speaks really fast and you’re more mellow, for example, it throws you out of sync. Putting "YOU" first gets a much better response, especially when you're asking for a favor, because it pushes the asker's pride button. It's better to say, "You look great in that suit" than "I like your suit." here are some people who are nice enough but steal. Some people are outwardly respectful while inwardly making fools of everyone. Some people are brave on the outside yet cowardly on the inside. Some people do their best but are not loyal. 1. RIGHT AND WRONG. - Question them concerning right and wrong, to observe their ideas. Morality affects actions. Your view of right and wrong shapes the way you behave. What may seem wrong to you may be perfectly right for someone else and vice versa. This may lead to clashes or problems at inopportune moments. To avoid this, it is good to know about a person’s morality. This is especially so for those who are close to you personally or professionally. By listening carefully to their ideas about right and wrong, you will know more about their nature. 2. ARGUING STYLE. - Exhaust all their arguments, to see how they change. Watching the way someone argues reveals a lot about his or her nature. To what lengths would he or she go to win? How do they present their arguments? What kind of tactics do they use? Do they bother to find common ground? Or must they prove they are right while the other is wrong? Are they calm and composed or angry and agitated? The character a person displays in an argument easily translates to other aspects of their lives. 3. CREATING STRATEGY. - Consult with them about strategy, to see how perceptive they are. When you consult someone on strategy, note his or her approach and the factors considered. Do they focus on the problem or the solution? Is the given solution a short-term or a long-term one? What is the cost involved for the solution? A perceptive person is wise and can provide deep insights into any situation. If you can find someone with such wisdom, you should keep him or her close by. If a person is not perceptive, you should be careful about seeking their advice. 4. IN TROUBLE. - Announce that there is trouble, to see how brave they are. It is easy to be seemingly brave when all is well. But only trouble reveals the truly brave from the cowards. Does this person have the moral courage to act rightly in the face of opposition, shame, scandal or discouragement? How do they manage fear, pain, uncertainty or intimidation? Do they crack under the pressure and give up? Or do they press on until the end against all odds? Whenever there is trouble, always take note of a person’s bravery in the midst of it. 5. GETTING DRUNK. - Get them drunk, to observe their nature. Most of us hide our true selves from others for various reasons. It could be due to a need for approval or a need to conform or just plain rigid self-control. As such, it is hard to know how a person truly thinks and feels. If a chance arises to observe a person’s nature without inhibitions, seize it. Having deeper insights into their nature will spare you from unexpected shocks. 6. SHARING THE CREDITS. - Present them with the prospect of gain, to see how modest they are. The prospect of gain reveals a lot about a person, especially in a work related context. Does he share the credit or gain with others, or does he seek to claim it all for himself? Is he proud or modest about the gain? Some people may let a gain go to their heads and cloud their judgment. In doing so, they might ignore all advice and bring about disasters later on. At the very least, they can become insufferable and alienate others. If you notice a lack of modesty early on, be careful in your dealings with this person. 7. TRUSTWORTHINESS. - Give them a task to do within a specific time, to see how trustworthy they are. Actions speak louder than words. It is easy to proclaim one’s trustworthiness, but quite another matter to prove it. To test a person’s trustworthiness, assign him a task with a deadline and observe the way he carries it out. If he succeeds, that is well and good. But if he fails, note the reasons given and the circumstances involved. This objective assessment will give you deep insights into a person’s trustworthiness. * ASK ABOUT FRIENDS. - We usually surround ourselves with people like ourselves. * ASK ABOUT FAMILY. - Does he speak well of his family his mother? What is he saying about his / her ex? Is he speaking negative about them? Does he want marriage and children? (He may get up and run, but you do need to know this so you are not just waiting around for someone to make up their mind about marrying you later. If he or she is slow in answering then he or she is avoiding something. * VALUES. - How does he/she speak, does he/she speak with foul language. Do they take things, steal extra change that is not theirs. What are his/her morals. Most important watch his/her reactions in public and behavior and he/she will show their true colors. * JOBS - What do they do? Have they held onto a job, and for how long? What are your goals in life? This will allow you to see if he/she may have a good head on his/her shoulders. See if he/she has plans and hopes for the future. * FINANCES - Tricky question, but you must find a point to ask the person you may be getting serious about, you don’t want a person that is in debt with every company, and his paycheck is from “hand to mouth”. No money in his/her pocket. Too much spending. * RELATIONSHIP - Are you married / or do have a girlfriend/boyfriend? What is the relationship? Are they still seeing each other? Is there a child involved, are there any child support of alimony he / she must pay? * HOBBIES - What do they do on their free time? Do they have time for themselves reading, golfing or is it by the TV with the guys drinking beer. Do they have intellectual desires, goals? * COMPLAINING? - Do they complain a lot? Do they complain about having to work or going to work? Are they complain of how expenses items are, the meal etc? Do they say rude things about the ex girlfriends, family members? Name two things you consider yourself to be very good at. Name two things you consider yourself to be very bad at. What are/were they like? What was your favorite musical group when you were in Junior High? What was your favorite childhood injury? Worst roommate you have ever had? What is your worst dating experience? If you could have any superpower, what would it be? You're about to make your way down the green mile, what do you have as your last meal? Who is the person you respect the most, and why? If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live? Where did you grow up? Why do you like living in this area? Are you famous? Have you ever been mentioned in the newspaper? or appeared on TV? Do you like to shop? Where were you born? Are you generally well liked? What is the meaning of your name? What are your hobbies? How do you spend your free time? When is your birthday? Do you have any enemies? What's your favorite hobby? What’s your favorite color? What's your favorite holiday? What's your favorite kind of weather? What's your favorite animal? What's your favorite website? What's your favorite country? What's your favorite app on your phone? What's your favorite radio station? What's your favorite hairstyle? Do you own a Twitter account? Instagram? Facebook? Are you right-handed or left-handed? Do you have a garden? Do you have a blog? Do you like to paint or draw? Do you create any forms of art? Do you watch the news? What kind of music do you like? What is your middle name? Can you keep a secret? What do you do to relax? What is your full name? What are your nicknames? What do you prefer to be called? What do your relatives call you? Are there any Christmas songs you can't stand? Have you ever dialed 911? Ran out of gas? What was the largest crowd or gathering you have ever been to? If a genie granted you 3 wishes, what would you ask? If your house was on fire and you could grab only 3 things before leaving, what would they be? If you had a big win in the lottery, how long would you wait to tell people? Who would you tell first? What would you do if your pet was diagnosed with an illness and the vet bill would cost $2000? What's your initial reaction when someone calls you really early in the morning? What would you do if you found out that a friend of yours is gay or lesbian? Do you mind sleeping on the floor? What would you think of a guy who wears pink? Would you ever consider living abroad? Do you prefer to live in a city or on a farm? What things in life make you angry the most? What is the nicest thing anyone has ever done for you? Do you mind singing in front of other people? Could you kill someone if you had to? What do you do most when you are bored? If you could retire tomorrow what would you do? Does it bother you when people have really loud conversations on the bus? If you were given the chance to read just one person's mind, whose would you choose? What would you do if you were the last person alive on earth? If you could have picked your own name, what would it be? If you could could be CEO of any company right now, which company would you choose? Do you usually sleep with a nightlight on, the fan on, the music on, the TV on, or absolute silence? What's the weirdest, scariest, or most bizarre thing that someone would find in your house? What is the worst physical pain you have ever experienced? What's your favorite TV show? What did you want to be when you were a child? What are you passionate about? What excites you? What turns you on? How many times have you been drunk? Do you play chess or other strategy games? Are you good at them? What is usually your first thought when you wake up? What would you do if one of your friends told you that he or she is or has become a homosexual? Do you love your job? Why or why not? Are you more like your mom or your dad? In what way? How often do you get a haircut? Describe your worst haircut. Do you like to dance? Have you ever enjoyed something so much that you thought you could do it forever and not get tired? What was it? Have you ever googled yourself? What are some of the nicest things you have ever done for others? Have you ever played Dungeons & Dragons? What things in life give you maximum joy? Have you ever seen a comet in your life? Have you ever had an out-of-body experience? Have you ever had a massage? Have you ever seen a volcano? Have you ever been to the Niagara Falls? When is the last time you were in a swimming pool? When was the last time you won a contest? Do you read horoscopes? Have you ever been to a fortune-teller? Have you ever cut your own hair? Have you ever tried riding a unicycle? When was the last time you went skiing or snowboarding? Is that something you love to do? Have you ever driven a snowmobile? What is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you? Have people ever made fun of your name? How did that make you feel? And how did you react? Have you ever locked yourself out of your car? How did you get back in? Have you ever been to a funeral? If yes, whose? Have you ever lost your car keys? or house keys? When was the last time you built a snowman? or had a snowfight? Have you ever been robbed? Were you ever a girl scout? Have you ever fired a real gun? Have you ever watched The Simpsons? Did you like it? What is something that you won, and how did you win it? Have you ever been compared to a celebrity? Have you ever seen a tornado? Have you ever seen a ball lightning? Have you ever stayed at a luxury hotel room? What was your hotel room like? Do you hunt? What's the largest animal you have caught? Have you ever been on a helicopter? Was there a time in your life when you had tremendous responsibility? How many times have you been to Disney World? Have you ever shoplifted or stolen anything? Have you been pulled over by a cop? Have you ever swam in a mountain lake? Have you ever felt an earthquake? What was the tallest building or highest place you have been to? What was the longest time you have gone without sleep? Have you ever hitchhiked? Have you ever ridden on a motorbike? Have you ever been on Pensacola 360? Have you ever been on a cruise? Have you ever worked in the military? Have you ever cheated on a test? Have you ever tried riding a unicycle? When was the last time you rode a bicycle? Have you ever purposely hurt yourself? Have you ever seen someone die? Have you ever been deep sea fishing? Have you ever won a trophy? [BELIEFS & OPINIONS] LIFE: Do you think life is fair or unfair? and why? Is it wrong to marry outside of your own race? If we could improve humanity using genetic manipulation, do you think that would be a good idea? Is it perfectly fair that many people acquire large incomes, not through work, but through inheritance? Do you think that animals can enjoy music? Do you believe there's intelligent life on other planets? What do you think about the Harry Potter stories? What do you think of soap operas? Are you superstitious? Do you have a favorite number or lucky number? Do you believe in Santa? What do you absolutely love in life? What do you love about the world and the people in your life? What do you think the greatest invention is in your lifetime and why? [HABITS & LIFESTYLE] PERSONAL: When you have sunglasses on, do you stare at people? PERSONAL: Do you prefer to take showers at night or in the morning? PERSONAL: How much time do you spend on Facebook? PERSONAL: Do you ever sleep on your stomach? PERSONALITY: Are you generally introverted or extroverted? PERSONALITY: How much time do you spend talking on the phone? PERSONALITY: Are you more of a talker or more of a listener? PERSONALITY: Do you like spending time alone or with friends? PERSONALITY: Do you like to party? PERSONALITY: Are you easy to get to know? PERSONALITY: Do you tend to argue with people, or avoid conflict? PERSONALITY: Do you consider yourself a neat or messy person? PERSONALITY: Are you spontaneous, or do you always need to have a plan? PERSONAL: Do you download songs illegally? How would you describe your idea of the perfect life? Do you write poems? What color do you wear most? Do you keep a journal or diary? Do you read newspapers? Do you like to write? What do you write about? How do you like to spend New Year's Eve? What do you wish you had more time to do? Do you have a hundred different passwords for everything, or do you use just one or two? Do you like to reflect on life? Do you ever count your steps when you walk? Do you chew your pens and pencils? Do you still watch cartoons? What are some recreational activities that you enjoy? If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live? Does it bother you when people spit in public? If you could be any cell in the human body, which would you be? Do you set your clocks 5 minutes ahead to avoid being late? Do you ever play solitaire when you are bored? What do you usually do on the 4th of July? Do you listen to music while working? What time do you usually get up in the morning? What radio stations do you listen to? What's in your wallet? What kinds of music do you listen to cheer you up? Do you regularly burn incense in your house? What brand of jeans do you wear the most? When you are home, do you wear shoes, socks, slippers, or go barefoot? What kind of video games do you like to play? What do you do the whole day? What outfit makes you feel the most sexiest/handsome/beautiful/powerful/strong/confident? Please describe it. Do you chew gum everyday? How often do you go to the beach? Does it irritate you when the label on your shirt scraches against your back? Do you cut the labels off of your clothes? What do you usually do on your birthdays? SLEEP: Are you a morning person or a night owl? SLEEP: Do you snore? SLEEP: Usually how long does it take you to fall asleep? Do you fall asleep easily? SLEEP: How late do you sleep in? SLEEP: Do you wake up with an alarm clock? Are you gullible by nature? Do you watch anime? [UNIQUENESS] What's the hardest part of your life? What's the weirdest rumour you've ever heard about yourself? If you could attend any concert, what would it be? Who is your favorite celebrity? Where is your favorite beach? What would your dream house be like? What is your most treasured possession? What size is your bed? Do you hum more often or whistle more often? Where would you bury hidden treasure if you had some? What's one thing that not many people know about you? What is more important to you? science or art? What are your favorite smells or fragrances? If you had to change your hair color, what color would you choose? Do you care which way the toilet paper is hanging? Who is your favorite author? How many keys do you have on your key ring? What are your favorite words? Do you have any body piercings? If you had to encrypt a message, how would you do it? Do you like to wear pants or shorts? Do you like bright colors or pastels? Do you have anything in your room that has penguins on it? chickens? flowers? Would you rather be rich or famous? SLEEP: How often do you have dreams when you sleep? SLEEP: Do you wake up easily for small noises at night? SLEEP: Do you know anyone who sleepwalks? Would you ever go hunting for sport? How did you learn to swim? Are you afraid of heights? Are you a cat or dog person? Do you own any stuffed animals? What would you want to be written on your tombstone? Do you tend to walk faster or slower than others? Do you remember your dreams? Have you ever created a new language? What do you have on the walls in your bedroom? What color is your bedroom wall or wallpaper? Who is the most important person in your life? What do you say when you are angry? Pencil or Pen? What color ink do you prefer to write with? Do you like high-heel shoes? What's your most favorite place on this earth? Have you ever written letters to yourself? Do you own or use a desktop computer or a laptop? Are you a member of any societies or associations? What is your favorite store in Pensacola? What does your handwriting look like? What's your favorite TV channel? How many CDs and DVDs do you own? What are your favorite movies? What's your least favorite movie? If your life had absolutely no limits and you could have it all and do whatever you wanted, what would you choose to have & do? What are some things that you always take with you on a trip? What is your favorite seat on a bus? Do you like to sing in the shower? Do you ever dance even if there's no music playing? Have you ever had a dollhouse? Would you lick your mother's ice cream or drink from her cup? Would you rather use a fountain pen or a ball point pen instead? Are you volunteering anywhere? PERSONALITY: Do you feel energized when you are with people? or does it drain you? Have you ever thought about designing your own home? Do you read the fortune cookies that certain restaurants give you after a meal? Do you like to have some background music while you are studying? or do you prefer silence? What's your favorite soap? Do you have any pets? What sort of conversation gets you going? What do you enjoy talking about? What are some of your favorite TV shows? What was your favorite toy when you were little? What were your favorite cartoons when you were a child? What is your favorite board game? What was your favorite subject in school? What was your least favorite subject in school? Do you like video games? Are you a Twilight fan? Do you have any old calendars in your room? What kind of phone do you have? [FUTURE] PERSONAL: What are your plans for tomorrow? PERSONAL: How late are you planning to stay up tonight? PERSONAL: Are you scared of dying? What is your goal in life? Do you think you will achieve it? Where are you going to spend Thanksgiving? What would you like to know about the future? If at the end of your life you were given an extra 25 years, what would you do? What is one landmark in the world you hope to see one day? Do you feel you have a purpose or calling in life? Would you like to be famous someday? Why or why not? Are you worried about the future of our planet? If you could control time, to what year would you travel? Would you rather be older or younger? [PAST] PERSONAL: Can you tell me about one of the worst days of your life? PERSONAL: What was one of the best days of your life? PERSONAL: What are the meanest things you have ever done to others? PERSONAL: How has your life been different than what you had imagined? Have you ever met anyone famous? What achievement are you most proud of? What's the best summer vacation you have ever had? What did you do for your most memorable birthday and what age was it? What was the largest fish you ever caught? STORY: Do you remember any of the stories your relatives used to tell you? STORY: What did you do during Hurricane Ivan? Where did you go? Did you have a point in your life where you turned your life around? What is the worst thing that happened to you in the past several years? When was the last time you have written a letter by hand? What was the happiest year of your life? When was the last time you ran after the ice cream truck? What was the biggest mistake you ever made? When was the last time you had peanut butter? What was the last movie you saw in theaters? What were the first words you said when you were a baby? And what were some funny things you said? Have you ever been to any concerts? Which ones? If you could go back in time and change things, would you? Have you ever had to wear a uniform to school? When's the last time you ate a homegrown tomato? How old were you when you got your driver's license? When was the last time you swam in a pool? [LIKES & DISLIKES] PERSONALITY: Do you like surprises? Do you like classic or modern art? Do you like ebooks or physical books? Do you like old, black and white movies? What kind of shoes do you like to wear? What outdoor activities do you like to do? What is something that people do in traffic that really bothers you? Are there any words you don't like? Coke or Pepsi? Do you like when people speak with British accent? Do you like Mr Bean? Do you enjoy nature walks in scenic places? What computer programs do you use most often? Is there any kind of music that you hate? Do you like mountains better or the beach? Which do you prefer--rain or sunshine? Which do you prefer--sunsets or sunrises? What activities get you excited and enthusiastic? What makes you feel most alive? What's your favorite music that moves you most? What do you like about your hometown? Do you like PCs or Macs? Is there a certain breed of dog you don't like? [OTHER] Do people tell you that you act older or younger than your age? Do you live in a house or an apartment? Do you think if I knew you well I would like you? Have you ever imagined what it would be like to be the opposite sex? What makes you happy? STORY: Was there ever a time when you were frightened for your life? Which do you use more often, the dictionary or the thesaurus? Do you know anyone from Canada? Have you ever told me a lie? How fast can you say "Red lorry, yellow lorry"? Have you ever written a cryptic message or letter? Do you have any tattoos? How many? Would you consider dating somebody who grows marijuana for their own personal use? How hard is it for you to apologize when you hurt someone? [POSSESSIONS] Do you collect anything? -- stamps, coins, books, movies, cards, etc. Do you save old greeting cards and letters, or do you throw them away? Why? What kind of car do you drive? How many pairs of shoes do you have? Do you own an iphone or an ipod? Do you have any expensive jewelery? Would you rather have a full bank account or lots of stuff? What was the best Christmas present you have ever received? Did you ever have a goldfish? What was your first car? [GOALS & DRIVE] What does success mean to you? What is the number one motivator in your life right now? [CRAZINESS & RISK TAKING] What crazy things do you dream of trying someday? Would you go bungee jumping or sky diving? What is your all time funniest prank? Have you ever made prank phone calls? There are many landmarks in the world people climb. Have you ever climbed one, and if yes, which one(s)? Have you ever lost control of your vehicle while driving? Did you spin? What are the best fireworks you ever bought? Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket? Have you ever considered having an alligator as a pet? or a snake or a tiger? What is the craziest thing you have ever done? [CHILDHOOD] Who were your role models when you were younger? What cartoons did you watch when you were a kid? When you were young, have you made tents or forts in your room? How would you describe a perfect day when you were young? When you were young, did you ever sleep in a closet? How were you raised? Did you have a happy childhood? What's your earliest childhood memory? What are some of the things you miss about being a kid? When you were a kid, what did you dress up as for Halloween? What did you look like when you were a baby? [SENSITIVITY] Are you a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? [ATTENTION, FOCUS, AND MOTIVATION] How easily do you get distracted? How many desktop icons do you have? Do you like to use post-it notes? What is your most hated chore on the household todo list? Do you consider yourself lazy? Do you take a leisurely approach to life? Did your parents have to tell you to "Go clean your room"? Are you spontaneous, or do you always need to have a plan? Have you ever gotten lost while traveling? How often do you forward emails and chain letters? Would you describe yourself as someone who is attentive to detail OR someone who prefers to look at the forest instead of the trees? Do you always pick up after yourself? How many unread messages are in your Inbox? (on your computer & in your phone) Would you ever wear socks or shoes that do not match? On average, how much TV do you watch each day? Do you like to organize your things? [FOOD] What's your least favorite vegetable? Do you like to eat okra? Would you ever eat something out of the trash? Do you like beer, wine, or coffee? What's your favorite type of fruit pie? Do you eat the crust of pizza? What kind of toppings do you like on pizza? What foods do you really dislike? Do you like Chinese restaurants? Do you like salty, sweet, sour or spicy? What's your least favorite drink? What is your wine of choice? What's your favorite restaurant? Do you like tea or coffee? Do you like dark chocolate, milk chocolate, or white chocolate? Do you like to drink from a cup or with a straw? Do you like French fries? What's your favorite kind of pie? Do you like the taste of beer? Are there any foods you don't eat for health or other reasons? What kind of foods do you like to eat? What foods do you really dislike? What's your favorite dessert? How often do you go drinking? What's your favorite drink? What's your favorite fruit? What fast-food restaurant do you visit most often? What is your favorite junk food to snack on? How often do you go out to eat? Do you drink coffee? What do you like to eat for breakfast? What is your favorite food? Do you like to cook? Are you a good cook? Do you drink regular soda or Diet soda? What is the strangest thing you have ever eaten? Have you ever eaten any unusual foods such as alligator meat, frog legs, shark, octopus, cactus, cicada, ants, horse meat, iguana, etc...? What's your favorite drink? When was the first time that you had beer? What's your favorite cereal? What's your favorite thing to cook? What's your favorite candy? Do you like apple juice or orange juice? [SPORTS] Do you like to play tennis? Have you ever played golf? Do you know how to play? What's a sport that you don't like? Why don't you like it? What's your favorite sport? Do you like to watch sports? What do you think is the most dangerous sport? [HAPPINESS & MENTAL HEALTH] What movies make you cry? Do you like yourself? Do you take compliments well? Would people describe you as happy? When was the last time you cried? Have you ever seen a therapist? Have you ever been sexually abused? Have you ever watched porn? Do sexual questions bother you? Are you basically optimistic or pessimistic? Have you ever tried any drugs? Do you ever wish you were born the opposite sex? If so, why? Have you been bullied or picked on when you were a kid? Do you feel that people take advantage of you a lot? What keeps you up at night? Do you often worry how you come across to others? Is it easy for you to tell people how you feel? Have you ever wanted to commit suicide? What's the most terrifying moment of your life so far? Do you like to write your feelings? How often do you feel lonely? Do you have any fears or phobias? Have you ever thought about just packing up and running away? What extremely difficult life situation have you overcome, and how did you do it? Tell me something you wanted to achieve but did not, or something you have failed at. How did you cope with failure? What do you like most about yourself? Do you care about your birthday? Is it a special day for you? Have any of you ever been scolded in public or embarassed in public? Do you blush easily? When was the last time it occurred? What was the scariest movie you have ever seen? What was the most frightening experience that you've ever had? What are things that make you uncomfortable? Are you a secretive person? Do you hold a lot of secrets? Do many people know who you are and what you're all about? [TALENTS, INTELLIGENCE, AND KNOWLEDGE] Can you do cartwheels? Can you do a handstand? Have you ever performed in a talent show? Have you ever been home schooled? Have you ever written a book? Have you ever used Linux? If you had to teach something, what would you teach? What is your IQ? What was your major in college? What are you reading now? Were you a good student? Do you play any musical instruments? Did you pass the driving test easily? How many times did you have to retake it? How do you define “smart”? Have you ever solved a rubix cube? And if so, how long did it take you? When an aircraft crosses the sound barrier, a sonic boom is heard. But what would happen if an object flew faster than the speed of light? What's the tallest mountain in the world? Do you like math? When did you learn to drive? Do you know how to drive a boat? What's the longest word you know? What was the last book you read? Do you enjoy science experiments? Does it bother you when people write with bad grammar? Do you enjoy long, intelligent conversations? If you saw a bird in the forest, could you identify it? How about a flower? mushrooms? bugs? trees? berries? seeds? footprints? On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you grade your current knowledge of biology, chemistry, and physics? Are you good with history? Do you remember a lot of important events, names, and dates? If you see a snake, can you tell if it's poisonous? Do you have a fishing license? If you caught a fish in the ocean, could you identify it? What kind of books do you like to read? What five books would you take to a deserted island? Do you still remember how to do multiplication and division on paper? Do you know how to write in HTML? What is your greatest talent or skill? How many languages can you speak? Can you juggle? Which way is North? Do you know how to ride a horse? Are you good with directions and navigation? Are you a fast runner? Do you know sign language? Can you knit or crochet? or quilt? Can you do splits? Can you fake any accents? Are you good with algebra, geometry, and basic arithmetics? Are you good at drawing realistic pictures? Do you have a good sense of space and perspective? How many verses and poems did you memorize in your life? And how many do you remember? What is one thing you have learned as a child but haven't practiced in a long time? What's your favorite quote or saying? Are you a good singer? Can you read music? On a scale of 1 to 10, how intelligent, smart, or wise do you consider yourself? [POLITICS] Do you believe in the death penalty? Is healthcare a right or a privilege? What do you think about Obamacare? What's your opinion about gun control? Should laws against price gouging exist? What do you think about Obama? What do you think about global warming? Do you think America should give more aid to developing nations? Do you believe that more severe punishment of criminals reduces crime? Should marijuana be legalized? Do you think we spend too much money on our armed forces? Have you ever participated in a protest? Were you arrested? What would you do if you were the President? What would you do if you were mayor of Pensacola? Do you only buy American made products? Does it matter to you if the label says "Made in China"? If you had the chance to make a change in your local community, what position of power and influence would you assume? [CAREER] What was your first job? What do you do for a living? What jobs have you had in the past? As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? What did your parents want you to become? Is it more important to do what you love or to love what you are doing? What is the number one quality that makes someone a good leader? Are you a task-oriented person or a people-oriented person? Why would someone want to murder a person in your profession? Have you ever been fired from a job? Why? If you could have any job, what would you want to do or be? What do you know well enough to teach to others? What job would you never do no matter how much it paid? Have you ever been part of a not-profit organization and done volunteer work? Do you like your boss? Why or why not? [FRIENDS] Who are your best friends? How many friends do you have in real life that you talk to regularly? Have you ever been to a school or college reunion? Are you currently missing someone? Has any of your relatives or friends ever been in jail? or are any currently in jail? What do you bring most to a friendship? Do your friends use foul language? Who would you turn to if you were in desperate need of help? As a child, were you popular? Who were your friends, and what were they like? What kind of people do you love to be around? And what kind of people you simply can't stand? When you meet someone for the very first time, what do you want them to think about you? What is the most expensive gift you have ever bought for someone? Are you still in contact with any of your childhood friends? Do you have friends that only call when they need something? Have you ever had an imaginary friend as a child? Do you have penpal friends? Are most of your friends older or younger than you? How many friends do you have on Facebook? Are your friends mostly girls or guys? Do you know anyone who is currently doing drugs? Have you ever lived with a roommate? Do you send Christmas cards to your friends? [FAMILY] How often do you see your parents? What is the one thing that you admire about each of your parents? Do you have a favorite between your mom and your dad? Whom are you closer to, your mom or your dad? How important is your family to you? Who were your favorite relatives? Who's the most unusual member of your family? Are you close to your grandparents? How many brothers and sisters do you have? Are your parents together? How close are you to your family? Where does most of your family live? Where did your ancestors originally come from? What do your parents do? How well do you know your cousins? What are your grandparents like? Are they still alive? [MONEY] Which bill do you hate paying most? Have you ever had a credit card denied? Do you have significant debts? How many credit cards do you own? Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home or a new car? What is your favorite thing to spend money on? If I gave you $1000 and told you that you had to spend it today, what would you buy? How would an extra $1000 a month change your life? If you had saved every single penny that you have earned so far, how much money do you think you would have by now? What do you think about marriages in which two people agreed to sign a prenuptial agreement? How important is money to you? How do you save money? What would you do with 10 million dollars? If a relative died and left you a million dollars, what would you do with the money? Do you invest in the stock market? What kind of investing strategy do you use or would you follow? How much money do you save on a regular basis? Do you routinely spend money you don't have? If you were to sell everything you own and pay off all your debt, how much money would you have left? What is the most amount of money you ever loaned someone? How much money per month is enough for you to live comfortably? Other than money, what else have you gained from your current job? Approximately how much money do you spend on food in a week? Do you support any charities? Which ones? Do you like the idea of "life insurance"? Do you have life insurance? Upon leaving a store, you realize you were not charged for an expensive item. What would you do? What’s the most expensive gift you have ever given someone? Would you consider selling your engagement ring or wedding ring if you desperately needed money and you had nothing else left? How many discount savings coupons do you clip in an average month? How many expire before you use them? Should individuals within a marriage have separate bank accounts in addition to joint accounts? Have you ever bought a lottery ticket? Do you contribute to a retirement fund of some kind? What is your retirement plan? And what do you plan to do when you stop working? Do you plan to keep working through your retirement? Do you have a will? Where would you like to retire? Do you use a budget to manage your finances? What kind of lifestyle do you expect to have at age 70 or 80? How many hours a week do you work? Should a married couple have one joint account or separate bank accounts or both? Who should make the financial decisions? Do you consider yourself to be a saver or a spender? What is your credit score? Do you know? What is your annual income? [CHILDREN & PARENTING] If you were expecting to have a baby, how would you feel if you found out that you are going to have twins? Do you like children? What are the qualities of a good teacher? What would you want to teach your children about money management? Would you be willing to adopt a child? or be a foster parent? Ideally how many children would you like to have? If you had millions of dollars, do you think it would be a good idea to leave it to your children, OR do you think it would spoil them and ruin their lives? Will you teach your children to believe in Santa? As a parent, would you be more permissive with your children or would you want to keep them on a "tight leash"? Are there any toys, games, or sports that you wouldn't want your children to play? If you could choose one book as a mandatory read for all high school students, which book would you choose? Have you ever changed a diaper? Have you ever been a babysitter? Do you think you would be a good parent? Why or why not? What do you think is the best way to discipline a child? What method of education is the best in your opinion? Public school? Private school? Homeschool? How do you feel about violent television shows or video games? Do you have the names of your children planned out? What are your dreams for your children? What is a family tradition you will pass on to your significant other and kids? [HEALTH & PHYSICAL BODY] Are you allergic to any foods or ingredients? What is your blood type? Is anything hurting on you right now? Do you or any of your family or friends smoke? Are you currently on a diet? Do you have a workout routine? What is it? Do you have any place on your body where you cannot sense any pain or anything? How is your sense of smell? Are you good at identifying different smells and fragrances? Have you ever had sleep paralysis? How often does it occur? How long do you think you could survive if there were no doctors, hospitals, and medicine? Have you ever been stung by a bee? What is the worst injury you have had? Have you ever been in a car accident? Have you ever had a near death experience? Have you ever broken a bone? Have you ever had a narrow escape from death? Have you ever been so sick that you were hallucinating? seeing things? Have you ever been struck by lightning? When was the last time you checked your blood pressure? When was the last time you checked your blood sugar level? Do you have a history of heart disease, diabetes, or cancer in your family? Were you born premature or late? Have you ever performed CPR on someone? Are you an organ donor? Do you have good hearing? Can you tell when a note is off-key? Do you regularly take vitamins? Are you worried about eating genetically modified foods? Do you insist on eating organic foods only? Do you wish to lose weight? Do you believe in vaccinations? How often do you get sick? How often do you donate blood? Have you ever been hospitalized? Do you have an innie or outee? Is your hair naturally curly or straight? Where are you most ticklish? What size shoes do you wear? [LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS] What is the secret to a good marriage? Have you ever been cheated on? Have you ever experienced true love? Have you ever been married or engaged? How many children do you have? What are some funny or unique ways to say "I love you"? Have you ever had a huge crush on someone who still doesn’t know? Do you believe an "I love you" is a promise? Have you ever told someone you loved him or her and didn't mean it? When and with whom was your first kiss? What do you remember about your high school prom? Have you ever loved someone so much that it hurt? Are you happier single or in a relationship? What lessons have you learned from your relationships? Do you ever think about previous lovers? Have you ever been in love with two people at the same time? Is that possible? What is the longest love relationship (partner) you have had, and if it has ended, why? What are your top three love languages? (quality time / words of affirmation / touch / gifts / service) How much distance or closeness do you want in your relationship? If your partner had to travel overseas, how long would be too long? What if traveling was a regular part of his/her job? Once married, how often would you want to spend an evening together? How often would you want to spend time alone or with some other friends? What is your vision of an ideal love relationship? What is your priority on a first date? Do you think the actors in romantic movies actually fall in love with each other or they just pretend to? Would you break the law to save a loved one? What is your worst dating experience? What are you usually thinking during a first date? Have you ever been on a blind date? How old were you when you started dating? When was the last time you went out on a date? Have you ever dreamed about your wedding? Do you have any plans for how your wedding should go? Where do you want to go for your honeymoon? How many boyfriends have told you they loved you? How did your parents meet? What's the longest relationship you have been in? Have you ever written letters to your future husband? Do you believe in "love at first sight"? What's the most annoying thing someone could do on a first date? How do you feel about divorce? Are you afraid of love? [BIBLE, FAITH, AND SPIRITUALITY] When and how did you become a Christian? What church do you go to? Do you tithe? How often do you pray? How often do you pray? And how do you pray? What’s your definition of heaven? How would you describe it? If you could sit down with God and talk and ask questions, what would you want to know? You're given 10 million dollars to spend it on God's work. You cannot give it away for free or buy any material items for yourself. What would you do? Has anyone ever given you a prophecy concerning your future? Do you speak in tongues? Have you experienced any miracles? Have you ever witnessed to anybody? How many people got saved? Have you ever made an oath to God? Did you keep it? How old is the earth? What's your best guess? And why? Is it possible to lose your salvation? What's your favorite Bible translation? Which Bible translation is the most accurate in your opinion? Do you believe that Jesus Christ was born of a virgin? Is it OK for a Christian to drink alcohol? Do you always pray before you eat? How would you describe hell? Why did Job have to suffer? And why do bad things happen to good people? Do you think it's okay for a woman to be a preacher, teacher, or an evangelist? Do you think Jesus ever committed sin? Do you believe the devil is real? Is there a difference between paying tithes and offerings? Do you believe that angels and demons are real? Did God really create the world in six days? Do you believe that the Bible was inspired by God? Do you believe that Jesus Christ is the only way to heaven? How important is it for Christians to tithe? How would you describe the Trinity? What do you think about predestination? How do you feel about gay marriage? Do you think the rapture will take place BEFORE the Great Tribulation? Do you believe in the rapture? Do you think it will happen before, after, or in the middle of the Great Tribulation? Do you think that dinosaurs ever coexisted with man? What's your favorite Bible story? Do you believe in extraterrestrials and life on other planets? Have you ever been baptized? Would you describe what happened? What's your opinion about your parents' relationship? If you had a son, would you want him to be circumcised? [ETHICS & DEEP QUESTIONS] Are there any deep concepts that you would like to address with people that you never end up pursuing because you only speak to them on a surface level? What is most important in life? What do you think is the secret to a good life? What is our purpose here on earth as human beings? Do you believe that everything happens for a reason? What are your thoughts about those who commit suicide? Do you think that suicide is ever ok? Should people have the right to sell their own organs? Is it okay to lie in order to save someone's life? Do you think it's okay to lie in certain circumstances? Should terminally ill patients be allowed to get assisted suicide? Would you consider to have an abortion if your child had a severe birth defect such as missing arms/legs, brain damage, or a twisted body? Do you think there is no harm in traveling occasionally without a ticket if you can get away with it? Have you done it before? How many times have you traveled on a bus or train without a ticket? Have you ever been caught? What would you do if you saw a classmate cheating on a test? [TRAVEL] In what countries or states have you lived before? Where have you traveled? How many times have you moved in your life? Have you ever traveled by train? What countries would you most like to visit? How many countries have you been to? How many states? Do you prefer summer vacations or winter vacations? How would you spend an entire day in New York City or Washington DC? Would you consider studying abroad? Where is your favorite hiking trail? [ECONOMICS] Do you think capitalism works? In strikes and disputes between workers and employers, do you usually side with the employers? Do you think banks and investors have been responsible for most of our economic difficulties? What would you do if you had the ability to turn invisible anywhere anytime for as long as you want to? Would you let others know that you can do this? What would be your hobbies and interests if you lived 200 years ago, before there were cell phones, internet, cars, and electricity? What do you think of the feminist movement? Does it bother you when people refer to others by the color of their skin or ethnicity? Have you ever ran from a dog or a cat? Who do you live with? What's your favorite thing to do on a Sunday afternoon? What is the most evil thing you have ever done? If you were to be famous, what would you like to be known for? Have you ever stood up on a chair and screamed because of a spider or a mouse? On a scale of 1 to 10, how good are you at comforting emotionally distressed people (as in someone crying on your shoulder over a personal problem)? What is the most beautiful image, place, or thing you have ever seen? Why? Do you believe that houses can be haunted? What two things could you not do when you were a child, but you can do now? What are some concerts you have been to? Are you afraid of ghosts? How would you like to be remembered? How would your classmates remember you? Do you have a constant running monologue in your head? What are some of your guilty pleasures? How does it make you feel when a friend gives you a hug? Do you like when people greet you with a hug? How much do you feel understood by me, from 0-10? What do you wear to sleep? If you could be any cartoon character, who would you be? How long have you been a regular user of the internet? Do you play games on Facebook? Which ones? When was the last time you went to a concert? Do you think music can be therapeutic? PERSONAL: Have you ever peed in a swimming pool? Have you ever been in a men's bathroom? Why? Have you ever written something on the wall of a public toilet? Have you ever written a letter to Santa Claus? What did you write? What advice would you give to your younger self? In what ways do you think you have changed over the past 10 years? What do you usually think about right before falling asleep? Do you ever drop by your friends' house unannounced? If we were all forced to wear a warning label, what would yours say? How often do you invite your neighbors over to your home for a tea to talk about things? What would you do if everybody lived to be 800 years old? What is your favorite physical exercise? What is your favorite tree or plant? And your favorite flower? Do you think it is easier to learn as a child or as an adult? Should education be free? Have you ever had a Déjà-vu feeling? Do you like to wear a bath robe? Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out? Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed? Where were you on Valentine's day? What was the name of your first pet? How are you feeling right now? If you could choose, how would you want to die? What are your pet peeves? How do you spend a typical Saturday night? What is your favorite time of the year? What is something you have always wanted since you were a kid? What is your favorite quote? What’s something you wish you had done earlier in life? When was the last time you felt lucky? When did you first realize that life is short? Have you ever met someone who looked exactly like you? Have you ever burned yourself or caught on fire by accident? Are you a minimalist? Do you want to own less? Does living in a tiny house appeal to you? Have you ever kissed someone who wasn’t your boyfriend? When you hear someone talking, do you imagine the written words? Do you ever wonder if heaven gets over-populated? Do you ever intentionally not text back right away, even when you can? For a person you loved deeply, would you be willing to move to a distant country knowing there would be little chance of seeing your friends or family again? Are you a virgin? Do you trust new people or do they have to gain your trust? Do you assume that people are innocent until proven guilty? or guilty until proven innocent? What was the worst movie you have ever seen? Is there a particular preacher or evangelist who inspires you? What would you stand for if you knew that no one will judge you? What would you do if you weren’t afraid of anything? What are your wildest dreams? What was the best gift you have ever received? What is one gift that you will never forget? What’s the most expensive gift you’ve ever received from someone? Have you ever buried any valuables? If you were a teacher, how would you give your students recognition? And how would you reward them? What’s something that people do in traffic that really bothers you? What specific character trait do you want to be known for? What do you love to practice? What questions do you often ask yourself? What is your biggest regret? Which one of your responsibilities do you wish you could get rid of? Whom do you secretly envy? And why? What is the biggest obstacle that stands in your way right now? What celebrities do you admire? And why? What are some recent compliments you have received? Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength? What activities make you lose track of time? When you are 80 years old, what will matter to you the most? How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? When you help someone do you ever think, “What’s in it for me?” If the average human lifespan was 40 years, how would you live your life differently? Has your greatest fear ever come true? When have you worked hard and loved every minute of it? Who do you think of first when you think of success? What have you done in the last year that makes you proud? What are your top three priorities? What do you usually eat and drink while watching a movie? Have you ever thought about designing a new font? Do you squeeze your tube of toothpaste or do you roll it? What's the advantage to your method? What’s the best part of growing older? What animals are you most afraid of? How many days could you last in solitary confinement? How would you do it? What are the advantages and disadvantages of being your height? When was the last picnic you went on? Can you describe it? Do you like when people take photos of you? Do you always smile for pictures? Do you have any embarrassing pictures on Facebook? Who is the biggest "pack rat" you know? What is something you should throw away but can't? How come? Are men better than women in any way? Are women better? Have you ever seen your parents or any of your relatives naked? What is the greatest problem facing the world today? Who was the last person that said "I love you" to you? And who was the last person you said “I love you” to? What stresses you out? What do you usually think about on your drive home from work? What bad habits do you want to break? What’s something new you recently learned about yourself? What makes you feel secure? If you had to be someone else for one day, who would you be and why? What’s your favorite true story that you enjoy sharing with others? Right now, at this moment, what do you want most? What makes love last? What makes you weird? When you look back over the past month or so, what single moment stands out? If someone could tell you the exact day and time you are going to die, would you want them to tell you? If I could grant you one wish what would you wish for? Can you think of a time when impossible became possible? When you think of ‘home,’ what, specifically, do you think of? What gives your life meaning? Can there be happiness without sadness? Pleasure without pain? Peace without war? What do you love most about yourself? What do you imagine yourself doing 10 years from now? In your opinion, what is the most evil thing a human being could do? Who's your favorite Harry Potter character? Do you believe in luck or fate? Which days of the week do you prefer and why? If you could choose one thing to make life worth living, what would it be? Do you take the shampoos or conditioner bottles from hotel? Have you been tested for STDs (sexually transmitted disease)? Do you like to be in control? If you had to change your name, what would you change it to? What will the world be like in 25 years? Where did you get that scarf/bracelet/shirt/coat/etc? What is the most expensive restaurant that you have ever been to? What did you eat there? Do you think that the world will be a better place than it is right now 100 years from now? Why or why not? What do you like to do more than anything else in the world? When was the last time you stubbed your toe so hard that it brought tears to your eyes? How strict are you about the maintenance of your car? What are some jobs that you think would be boring? Are you more future oriented or do you like to think about the here and now? Is compulsory military training essential for a country's survival? What do you think of reality TV? What do you think of Fear Factor? Do you prefer window or aisle seat on an airplane? What are you looking forward to in the upcoming week/month? What do you think about me? Do you believe in vampires? What do you think is the most life altering decision you have made? Do you have a slight addiction to word searches, crosswords, or coloring books? What kind of TV shows or movies would you not want your children to watch? Would you rather spend life in prison or be executed? What would you do if you got lost in the wilderness during a nature hike? What do you think about crop circles in England? When you talk about yourself, do you want people to keep the information confidential? Are you happy right now? What makes you happy right now? What are you thankful for right now? Have you ever blocked someone on Facebook? Do you believe in ESP? (Extrasensory perception) Has anything ever happened to you that you cannot explain? Would you consider dating or marrying a divorced person? Do you think it is okay for children to work and earn money? Do you think smoking should be totally banned? Do you think that in our lifetime we will see a total economic collapse of the United States? Do you believe that we are destroying our planet by pollution? Are you concerned about the environment? What was the largest loan you have ever taken? Do you believe that Americans actually landed on the moon? Do you believe that the earth revolves around the sun? or is it the other way around? What is the worst job you ever had? What is the most out-of-character thing you recall doing? If you had to have a life sized statue made of you, how would you be posed? What would you be doing? Why did your parents name you what they named you? At what age did you leave home and become independent from your parents? How many hours of sleep do you normally get a night? When you were young did you feel you were born to do a great thing? How was life like as a teenager? If a taxi's license plate number was 666, would you refuse to ride in it? What kind of toys or games would you NOT want your children to play? And why? Are there any particular sports or activities or games you would want your children to play? Why? What happens after we die? What questions would you ask a Christian to figure out what kind of person (s)he is? To what extent do you agree with the statement, "I am a narcissist"? NOT ADDED YET: What is your opinion about owning a television? What qualifications do you want in a husband? If you had to pick a sport to do for one hour everyday for one year, what would you pick and why? What's the best action movie of all-time? Who's the most annoying celebrity in show business? What's the best TV show of all time? What would you want most for your next birthday? What would be the coolest movie prop to own? What's the worse thing about being a woman? What's the worst thing about being a man? What would be the most fun thing to throw off a tall building? If you could have any sign on your bedroom door, what would it say? What should we learn in high school that we don't? What would be the worst place to take a nap? What's the best Olympic sport? What would be the strangest way to answer the telephone? What's the best way to spend a Saturday night? What's the most annoying TV commercial? What's the most relaxing vacation spot? What would be the dumbest thing to say in a job interview? What car would you most want to own? What's the best snack food? What would be the worst thing to burn in a fireplace? What's the coolest new technology? What's the strangest aquatic animal? What's the best way to spend a rainy day? If you could be the opposite gender for a day, what would you do? What's the dumbest thing that someone has actually done? Which technology product would be hardest to live without? If you could train a monkey to do anything, what would it be? Which book character would you most want to hang out with? What animal would it be most fun to be? Which website would it be hardest to live without? What's the most boring book? What would be the best city to live in? If you could have a "BIG" anything, what would it be? What's the worst thing to say to a cop after getting pulled over? What's the worst fashion trend of all time? What's the most memorable TV commercial of all time? What's the best karaoke song of all time? What should more people pay attention to? Who would be the worst person to sit next to on an airplane? What technology don't we have that you wish we had? What should your gravestone say? What should the government spend more money on? What's the worst thing about money? Who is the best movie actor of all time? What company would you most want to run? What if you were working with someone who managed to take credit for your good ideas, how would you handle it? What is the best dish you can cook? Do you have any scars I don't know about? If you were that animal, and you are where you are right now, what would you be doing? Which is your favorite Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue? You wouldn't be caught dead, where? Do you own a digital camera? Do you have any hidden talents? What do you have in your pockets? Ever been arrested? What's the first thing you notice about the opposite sex? What personality traits do you and dogs have in common? Have you ever lied to me? Which bad habits drive you crazy? Name one thing you consider yourself to be very good at. Name one thing you totally suck at. Which kind of puppies do you hate the most? Ever been in the mile high club? Is there anything you absolutely refuse to do under any circumstances? How much time do you spend on - Facebook, Myspace, Twitter or Youtube? If you had to live under the sea what kind of an animal would you be? Have you ever won a trophy? What do you like about your job? What do you dislike about your job? What was least favorite job that you had? Name one thing that not many people know about you. ABOUT FAMILY: Where is your bloodline originally from? Did you ever kick or punch a sibling? Of all the things you learned from your parents which ones stand out for you? Tell me about a situation that your mother was amazing with you. Tell me about a situation where you feel you were really bonding/connected to your father. What weird family traditions do you partake in? Tell me about a funny family story. Do you have any famous relatives? Tell me about a family member you are really proud of. Where do most of your relatives hang out? Do you have any relatives in jail? Any crazy uncles? Who is the kindest person in your family? If you won the lottery who in your family would you like to help the most? What was the worst "Whooping" you got from your parents and why? What "bad" thing did you do as a kid that your parents never found about? What does your family have a reputation for? If you had to, what relative would you lock up in the shed and why? ABOUT HER HISTORY: What did you enjoy about school? Who was your enemy or the bully when you were young? What was your favorite musical group when you were in Junior High? Have you ever been so drunk that you had to be carried out? What was your worst hangover? When and with whom was your first kiss? Name someting you did as a child that your parents don't know about. When you first met me, what was the first thing that attracted you to me? What about your best ski vacation? Bikini or 1 piece swimsuit for going to the beach? What was your Halloween Costume for Halloween last year? Which is the most funniest prank played on you or played by you? What is the craziest thing you have ever done? Tell me about your first big road trip in your first car. What friend has influenced your life the most...and how? PREFERENCES If you could have any superpower, what would it be? List 1 thing you wish you could change about yourself: What is your most favorite meal? Who is the most important person in your life? What are you passionate about? Where is your favorite beach? Where is your favorite Hiking Trail? Who is the person you respect the most, and why? Who would you turn to if you were in desperate need of help? What outdoor activities do you like to do? What is your favorite music video? If you could choose, how would you want to die? Apart from the obvious ones, which of your body parts is most sensitive and responsive? What upsets you most in a relationship and what makes you the happiest? If your house was on fire and you could grab only 2 things before leaving, what would they be? What turns you on creatively, spiritually or emotionally? Who do you look up to or receive inspiration from that is not a big celebrity? Which is your most favorite place on this earth? What is your favorite treatment at the beauty salon? Where have you travelled to that you would call paradise? What is your favorite shape of pasta? What in the world can you not do without? American Idol - Love it or hate it? Why do you like living in this area? If you could change the world what would you do? What kind of "Girl" activities do you like to do? What is your favorite flower? What is your least favorite celebrity hairstyle? PHILOSOPHIES Do you believe in extraterrestrials or life on other planets? What is the speed of Dark? Do you believe in ghosts? Name 1 thing you love about being an adult Which would you rather have, $50,000 or true love? How would you explain love to somebody who had never heard of it before? Can you imagine a world with no hypothetical situations? If you were one of two people left on this earth, and the other was a woman; would you go gay? What do you consider the most important event of your life so far? Who has had the most influence on you? What do you think about people who get a facelift? If you were to perform in the circus, what would you do? If you could be one kind of beer which one would you be and why? If you were a kitchen appliance -- what would you be?.....now please make the sound of that appliance? What is the one thing for which you would most like to be remembered for after your death? If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates? Do you think people should eat the fish they catch, or just let them go? What about if they catch a dog, does the same rule apply? You have just been told that you could drop dead at any moment from of rare disease (possibly giant face cataracts of death). You may only live one more day but no more than one week. You have $50,000 in the bank. What do you do? If you had a past life - who do you think you would have been in that past life? FUTURE You're given $100,000 and you have to spend it all in one day and cannot buy any material item what do you spend it on? Be specific. What would be your dream job? If you could have 3 wishes granted, what would they be? If you could live , where would you live? If you could get free airfare - name a country you would visit. If you could add a single option to your car, what would you add? If you could start your own restaurant, what would it be? If you had an unlimited shopping spree at one store, which store would that be? If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? What goal do you most want to accomplish in your lifetime? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What do you dream about at night? If you knew you were going to die in 24 hours, name three things you would do in the time you had left. If you could get some plastic surgery, what part would you change. What would your dream house be like? What crazy activities do you dream of trying someday? If you could go on a road trip with any person (dead or alive), who would you choose and where would you go? What one fun goal do you feel you must do before you die? If money were no object, what would you be doing right now? What is stopping you? PERSONAL QUESTIONS: What is your favorite bedtime story? Where did you grow up? If you could change one thing about your childhood, what would it be? Is there anyone on this world you love more than yourself? Were you picked on at school? Do you still believe in Santa Claus? Have you ever slapped another girl after you turned 18? What do you think is your best physical feature? What do you think is your worst habit? What is the wildest thing you've ever done? Quick, name the first three things that come to your mind when I say _____________ . Do you have any weird habits? Have you ever had an addiction that you had to fight really hard to get rid of? What are your thoughts on gay marriages? Have you ever had a near death experience? How would you want to die? What do you find most attractive in a man? Do you have an OCD? If yes, what is it? Have you ever dreamed of being an actress? Do you believe in soulmates? Who was your first boyfriend? Why did your relationship break up? As a child, did you ever do something illegal? What do you do to unwind after a long day's work? What's the wackiest pick up line that's been tried on you? What's the cheesiest conversation starter that you've ever used? Pick one - chocolate or diamonds. What is your opinion about physical intimacy in relationships? What turns you off about men? FAVORITE 100 THINGS: What's your favorite exercise? What's your favorite shape? What's your favorite sound? What's your favorite flower? What's your favorite smell? What's your favorite song? What's your favorite movie? What's your favorite comedy movie? What's your favorite romantic movie? What's your favorite curse word? Which are your favorite bands or singers? Who's your favorite movie star? Who's your favorite entertainer? What's your favorite TV program? Who's your favorite evangelist? Who's your favorite celebrity? What's your favorite time of the day? What's your favorite animal? What's your favorite pet? What's your favorite bird? What would be your favorite job or dream job? What's your favorite time of the day? What's your favorite car? What's your favorite season of the year? What's one thing you like to think about the most? What's your favorite thing to do alone? What's your favorite musical instrument? What's your favorite Disney movie? What's your favorite thing to spend money on? LOOKS & STYLE: What's your favorite brand of clothing? What's your favorite shoe? What's your favorite dress? What's your favorite jewelry? What's your favorite shampoo? What's your favorite perfume? What's your favorite kind of eyeglass if you had to wear one? What's your favorite news website? FREE TIME What's your favorite video game? LITERACY What's your favorite idea? What's your favorite poem? What's your favorite book? What's your favorite genre that you read? Of all US presidents, who is your favorite? and why? Of all US states, which one is your favorite? BIBLE What's your favorite book of the Bible? What's your favorite verse in the Bible? What's your favorite story from the book of Genesis? Who's your favorite Bible character from the Old Testament? FOODS What's your favorite food? What's your favorite drink? What's your favorite tea? What's your favorite dessert? What's your favorite cereal? What's your favorite ice cream? What's your favorite pizza? What's your favorite junk food to snack on? What's your favorite breakfast food to eat? What is your favorite type of pie? PLACES What's your favorite thing in your house? What's your favorite thing in your yard? What's your favorite place in your city? What's your favorite vacation? What's your favorite place? What's your favorite beach? Where's your favorite hiking trail? What's your favorite store? PAST Who was your favorite teacher and why? Who was your best friend in school? and why? What was your favorite subject at school? What was your favorite subject in college? What was your favorite childhood television program? As a child, what were your favorite activities? SPECIFIC QUESTIONS: In Matthew 18:23-35, which character in this story would you rather be? and why? Who's your favorite person in your family? and why? Who is your best friend? and why? If you could sit down and talk with God, what question would you ask Him? What do you like most about God? Name one thing you most like about the Bible. Name one thing you most like about yourself. Name one thing you most like about your family. Name one thing you most like about your dad. Name one thing you most like about your mom. Name one thing you most like about your brother. Name one thing you most like about your sister. Name one thing you most like about your neighbor. Name one thing you most like about me. If you could go back to Bible times, which story would you like to experience and relive? BAD THINGS: Have you ever been to a hospital? Have you ever had a very bad experience at the dentist? Have you ever been in such a dangerous situation that you could have easily died? Describe it. It is easy to prevent chronic heartbreaking situations. In the first or second date, simply ask a potential partner to describe “what is your vision of an ideal love relationship?” Then make sure you actually listen to the answer. Don’t fantasize how you will change him/her. If you have doubts about the sincerity of your potential partner’s story, ask about her relationship history. What kind of questions need to be asked? Your inquiry should include such details as these: sexual lifestyle choices including attitudes about monogamy, swinging, homosexuality, and pornography? What are your needs for romance, sex, affection? How many? How and by whom do you see them being raised? What is your Religion, including how important is it that a partner shares your religious faith? Related to this is the question of how much distance or closeness you want in your relationship. One client was repeatedly enraged that her husband spent several weekends a month traveling for his work. She had assumed that once they were married he would stop, because obviously husbands and wives must spend every night together, right? It is important that we make a clear distinction between those dreams which we consider absolutely essential for relationship happiness and those desires that we can live without. For example, you want children. How critical is this? Can you meet your needs for children with an extended family or step children? Is having a loving partner more important than kids? In order to make a good choice both of you must be honest with each other without judging each other as “wrong.” Always keep reminding yourself that many acceptable lifestyle choices are available in the Twenty-first Century, and you are looking for someone who shares that particular vision that is yours. Honor your choices, honor your desires, and you have a better chance of getting your needs met. Good luck on your search! In the third article in this series I will describe strategies for making any relationship more harmonious. MOTIVATIONAL QUESTIONS: What brings you most satisfaction from work? Can you describe a time when you felt particularly motivated at work? What needs to happen for you to feel valued and appreciated? Did you save any money last year? Did you miss any payments on any obligations in the past year? Did you have a balance on your credit card after the last payment was due? Including all of your assets, was more than 10% of the value in liquid assets? Is your total debt service (principal and interest) less than 40% of your income? Do you buy impulsively? Do you buy quality things or whatever is cheapest? Have you ever had bird droppings fall on your head? Do you always like to improve yourself? or you don't like to change? Is September too early to play Christmas music? Apart from the cause for Christ, what is a cause you are most passionate about and why? What beliefs do you have about marriage? And how much have the marriages within your friends and family shaped these ideas? Have there been any divorces of people close to you that have affected your attitude toward marriage? What record do you have with commitments? Do you take commitments very seriously or not so much? What kind of examples do you have for being responsible and consistent in your life? Could a woman propose to a man? Would that be weird or normal? Do you have expectations of what components go with a marriage like a wedding, a honeymoon, etc? If you had a friend in an abusive relationship should his/her marriage still stand even though (s)he is being abused? Do you ever complain? Like about someone is tailing you on the road, do you report them? Or if someone messed up your coffee. Are you being hostile or prefer to try to be nice first? If a close relative of yours died, would you like to be surrounded by people or would you prefer to mourn alone? Is it a reflex action when we feel über delighted? What brings butterflies in one's stomach? What triggers sadness? Why do people fake happiness? Do you ever worry why you are alone today? How long can you survive without talking on the phone? If you ran into your current boyfriend/crush in 10 years would you marry them? If your ex suddenly kissed you right now, what would you do? Is your best friend dating anyone? Describe the shirt you’re wearing. Do people who wear Hollister and Abrerbrombie every day bother you? Do you believe in ghosts or evil spirits? Would you be willing to spend a night alone in a remote house that is supposedly haunted? What kind meanings do colors have in your culture? ALREADY INCLUDED IN THE LIST WITH DIFFERENT WORDING: Is the glass half empty or half full? Are you a morning or night person? Do you look more like your mother or your father? Do you think private property should be abolished? Have you ever seen any celebrities or famous people in person? Do you cut out coupons but then never use them? How much is your net worth? How do you prefer to get the news? What animal are you the most like? Why? Whose autographs have you collected? Are you a coupon collector? Do you get fanatical about saving money on groceries? What food items did you eat so far today? What books on your shelf are begging to be read? What's your birth order? Do you have any siblings? If yes, are they older/younger to you? Are they male or female? 56. Ever milked a cow? FAMILY: What was it like, growing up with with your siblings? How is your relationship now with your siblings? Do you have siblings? How many? What are/were they like? If you have brothers and sisters, what is your relationship with them like? 63. Best concert you have been to? 94. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What makes you laugh? Who is the second to last person to call you? Is there anything going on this weekend? What do you think about the most? What is the last movie that you saw at the cinema? What time do you get up? Which came first the chicken or the egg? Occasionally we see something very bad, and we change the channel or watch something else. What are the worst images in your head? What is the most gratifying way you impact others' lives? If your job was to share the Gospel with one person every week, where would you find the people, and how would you approach them? How would you do it? You know you get all these motivational quotes that travel around Facebook. Do you share them? What is the biggest misunderstanding you have had with someone and how much drama did it cause? What’s something your parents used to say to you as a child that you promised yourself you’d never say—but now you catch yourself saying all the time? 32. What is your greatest regret? 59. What do you look for in a potential lover? What music do you listen to to lift your spirits when you’re feeling down? 63. Do you trust anyone to protect you? Who, and why? 64. If you died or went missing, who would miss you? 69. Do you care what others think of you? What do you think, how accurate MBTI tests are? Care to share some of their wisdom? Do you have any sleeping disorders or trouble falling asleep or staying asleep? Would you prefer to buy used furniture at a thrift store, or new furniture at a furniture store? Describe some of the people that you work with. Should both people work? or is it okay if only one of them works? do you have any Credit card debt, auto loan, student loan, mortgage, medical debt, personal loan? if a married couple cannot afford to buy a piece of furniture, do you think it is okay for them to buy it on credit? would you prefer to buy fruits, vegetables, and eggs at a farmers market, flea market, Walmart, Publix, or where? would you prefer to buy a used car from a private party or dealership or do you prefer to buy new car at a dealership? Do you like Wal-Mart, Target or Winn Dixie? What is your birthstone? Has a movie ever changed your perspective or world view? Which movie has had the deepest impact or influence on your life? If you notice a cat or squirrel run in front of you, would you step on the brake? What is your main goal in life? Which relative are you emotionally closest to? Who is the closest friend you have ever had? Describe that relationship. Is there any fabric or material or thing that when you touch it, you immediately get a chill up your spine and goosebumps all over? What gives you comfort? What do you do to comfort yourself? Have you ever talked so much to someone that you felt like there's nothing else left to say? WHen you are at a red light, do you pray to God to turn the light green? Do you think that rejecting someone's offer to do something nice for you is equally as offensive as taking advantage of someone? How do you interact with your neighbours? Do you send them holiday cards? Do you visit them? Do you invite them for a tea? How do you envision marriage after 10 years? As a ......, is there a product or service that you would buy, but doesn't exist? what's your reaction when somebody would point a camera at you? Do you ever play drinking games? Which store would you choose to max out your credit card? How does your family communicate? Do you remember times when communication was good OR times when there was miscommunication? There are 195 countries in the world. Approximately how many of them could you name or identify? Are you familiar with the geography of North America? Can you identify a lot of songs by just listening? How many pushups can you do? Do you know anybody who is mentally ill to some degree? Been in a band? 45. What is the weirdest thing about you? Are you a member of any sports team? If not, have you ever been? Do you think teachers are paid enough? How many lovers have you had so far? Would you rather go swimming or skiing? How often do you ski? When did you start? And who taught you? Do you notice patterns and changes in the environment? If the USA was attacked by another country, would you support war? What if an attack looked imminent but did not actually occur? Have you ever eaten a pierogi? What do you think when you see a man with long hair? Have your ancestors lived a long life, or has any of them died before reaching old age? Have you ever stolen a street sign? Do you like watching car races? Do you like wrestling? What do you want to do in your life? Do you have big goals? What was the best thing that happened to you this past week? What was the best birthday gift you have ever received? What’s the best gift you ever gave someone, in your opinion? Are you fearful of germs or foodpoisoning and tend to toss everything out of the fridge that is more than a week old? How do you want the world to be different when you die? What kind of changes would you like to bring about? What are your greatest accomplishments in life so far? Can you tell me the moments that you are proud of as well as the times that you’ve succeeded? What activities, hobbies, or anything else can you complete with ease? What would be your ideal lifestyle? List what you would do throughout the day if you knew that you were bound to be successful, what kind of person you would be, how much money you would earn, and where you would live? What would you do if you had one billion dollars? List everything that you would really love to do if you had all the money in the world. You would probably travel the world, buy a house or two, and give some money to your family. Then what would you do with your time? Who do you admire most in the world? What are your greatest inspirations and the qualities that you admire about these people? Think about what really inspires you in this world. What sporting event, concert, or entertainment would you buy tickets to regardless of price? Would you trust people who have flip-flopped on what they believe? Have you ever been in love? Describe it, please. What are your top 3 websites on the web? Do you have any particular health concerns such as heart problems, high blood pressure, diabetes, asthma, etc.? Would you agree that race is basically just skin deep? What's your regular spiritual practice, if you have one? I find I fare best when I meditate an hour per evening, as well as leave some quiet time aside for spiritual reflection. Do you remember your earliest dreams you had in your childhood? Are you good at sports? What sports are you good at? Do you often play sports? Do you like to snowboard? Do you like to watch sports on TV? which ones? Do you think athletes earn enough money, not enough money or too much money? Do you think playing sports helps people work better as a team at work? Have you ever been to watch a professional game? Is it good that professional sport is so commercial nowadays? Were you on a sports team in high school? Were you on any sports teams in high school? What new sports would you like to try? What sport do you think is the most expensive? What sports did you do in junior high school? How about high school? What sports do you follow? What sports do you watch? What sports do you hate to watch? What sports do you like to play? What sports do you like to watch live? Where is the nearest stadium to your house? Who is your favorite professional athlete? Why? How do you feel about extreme sports? Would you like to try any of these? In some cultures, fishing is a sport. Do you think that it is? About how many different color foods did you eat for dinner last night? Do you think about color when you are preparing a meal? Are there any foods that you wouldn't eat as a child that you eat now? Do you cook? If yes, what food do you cook the most often? Do you ever skip breakfast? If so, how often and why? Do you have a favorite bar or cafe? If so, where is it? Why do you like it? Do you like Chinese food (Indian food, Mexican food, etc)? Why or why not? Do you like deep-fried food? Do you like to eat at fast food restaurants? What is your favorite junk food? Do you like to try new food and drinks? Do you often eat out? What was the first concert you have been to? Do you prefer to eat at a restaurant or at home? Do you think a vegetarian diet is better than a diet that includes meat? Do you usually want to eat dessert after dinner? How often do you eat out? Where do you usually go? What foods do you hate? What foods do you love? What was your first serious relationship? What foods have you tasted which you will never forget for the rest of your life? What is one of your favorite foods? What is the last meal you cooked for someone else? What is the most expensive meal you have ever eaten? When did you go? Who did you go with? What would be the title of your biography? What is something you wanted to get done today but didn't? Why didn't you get it done? If you could spend one year contentedly happy yet have no memory of that year afterward, would you want to have that experience? Why or why not? Are they older or younger than you are? Do you like baseball (football, soccer, hockey, etc)? What three adjectives other people might use to describe your personality? Do you live alone? Have you ever lived in another country? What was your first job like? How much did you get paid? How do you spend your free time? Tell me about a favorite event of your adulthood. On a scale of 1 to 10, how well do you think you sing? What are your hobbies? What are you a natural at doing? What happened to you so that you got "locked out"? What kind of food do you like? Who do you respect the most? Who has had the most influence in your life? What is your most unusual morning or nighttime ritual? What do you want to be doing 5 years from now? How many cities have you lived in? What jobs have you done? Describe a typical day at your current job? Describe your first job. If you had to choose between a satisfying job and a well-paid one, which would you choose? Name 3 occupations that you could do. Name 3 occupations that you could never do. What are some jobs that you think would be fun? What are some questions that are frequently asked in a job interview? Do you like music, sports, cooking, teaching others, learning, watching movies? About how many CDs do you have? Can you concentrate on other things when you are listening to music? How long have you been playing? Are you good at it? Do you enjoy music videos? Do you ever listen to MP3 files on your computer? Do you like all kinds of music? Do you like country music? Do you like jazz? Do you like to listen to classical music? Do you like to listen to Broadway musicals? Do you like punk music? Do you like singing karaoke? How often do you sing karaoke? Do you like to dance? Do you like having children around you? Have you ever been to a concert? Have you ever been to a rock concert? Have you ever been to an orchestra concert? Have you ever taken part in a singing competition? How often do you listen to music? If you could play any musical instrument, what would it be? If you could start a band, what type of music would you play? Why? Should music lyrics be rated similar to the way movies are rated? What do you think the world would be like without music? What do you think of manufactured bands? Can you name any? What is one of your favorite songs? Why do you like it? When did you first hear it? Who signs it? What was the last CD you bought? What was your favorite music 5 years ago? 10 years ago? How have your musical tastes changed? When was the last time you went dancing? Is the image of the group or singer more important than the music? Do you prefer rock music or romantic music? What do you do if you can't sleep at night? Do you count sheep, toss and turn, or get up and try to do something productive? What do you do with the majority of your money? What do you do to deliberately impress others? 6. What’s something you intended to do today, but didn’t? Why not? 7. Using only one word per person, what was your first impression of each person present with you now? If today was the last day of your life, would you want to do what you are about to do today? If today was the last day of your life, who would you call and what would you tell them? Do you believe in ghosts? Do you believe that dead people can return as ghosts? Would you talk to a ghost? Do you know anyone who has said that they have seen a ghost? Have you ever seen a ghost? What is the scariest ghost story you know? Do you know of any local place that is said to be haunted? What is that story? Have you ever been to that place? Were you ever touched or physically harmed by a ghost or "spirit"? If so, how? If you could haunt something or someone, who or what would it be? If you don't believe in ghosts, why not? Do you think that there is truch behind superstitions? Do you walk under ladders? What do you consider to be lucky? What do you consider to be unlucky? Have you ever gone to a psychic? If so, what happened? Do you know anyone that has ever been to a psychic? Do you believe in horoscopes? Do you think that dreams come true? Do you believe that dreams have significant meaning? Do you think that some people can predict the future? Do you like scary stories? Do you believe in reincarnation? Do you believe in alines? Do you believe in angels? Do you believe in witchcraft? Did you have a rebellious nature, or do you "still have it" in you? Have you ever been abroad? If so, where? Could you live in another country for the rest of your life? Who was the most interesting person you met on one of your travels? Can you describe him/her? Can you tell me what your best trip was like? Can you tell me what your worst trip was like? Do you prefer to travel alone or in a group? Why? Do you prefer to travel by train, bus, plane, or ship? If you were going on a camping trip for a week, what 10 things would you bring? What are the qualities of a good student? What do you study? What's your major? What's your favorite class? What is/was your favorite subject? Why do you like it? Why do you think people become teachers? What do you think about home schooling? Do you know anyone who was home schooled? Does education guarantee a good job? What room in your house best reflects your personality? Why? What are you doing right now ("right now" being figuratively meaning job, hobby, school or whatever is taking most of your time or most of your concentrations recently) AND what do you wish you were doing right now/soon? If you were a street sign what would you be? Do you drink, or use drugs? If so, why? Do you want to quit? What's your favorite song? Would you move to Canada to avoid serving active duty during military conflict abroad? What’s your view on censorship in the arts? If you could talk to someone from the future, what would you ask him? Do you tend to be concrete and literal OR allegorical and ? Do you think mercy is more important than justice? Are you a decisive person? or do you like to have many open choices? What do you think will happen if the US government will be unable to borrow any more money? What are your political views? 45. Are you able to kill? Under what circumstances do you find killing to be acceptable or unacceptable? How do you most like to be entertained? What is your idea of good entertainment (consider music, movies, art, etc.)? What do you consider your greatest achievement? What do you value most in life? What do you stand for? What causes do you support? Do you watch TV or movies while studying or writing letters yet? If our days were 30 hours long instead of 24, how would you spend that extra 6 hours? Have you discovered what your "innate talent" is? That part of your personality that comes out naturally, without you even realizing it for many years, that makes other people's lives better or easier. Usually everybody can see it except you. What is it? And how long did it take you to realize you had it? 144. Would you consider yourself a good student? - Probably yes 135. What kind of a student are you? - A quiet procrastinating one Are you able to keep secrets? Is it hard for you? Do you believe in ghosts? Do you have any hidden talents? Do you read books or listen to people whom you expect to contradict your strongly held opinions? What's your favorite time of year? Does it bother you if people swear around you? Does the label on shirts bother you/tickle your neck? How many places have you lived? Do you say what's on your mind? What one thing are you exceptionally bad at? What makes you laugh? Do you like having children around you? Ever had a boyfriend? Have you ever gotten an A in a subject? Ever been stabbed In the back by a close friend? What musical instrument would you most like to be able to play? What fear would you like to conquer? Do you prefer Wednesdays or Thursdays? Do you think spending 20$ on Lip Gloss is a waste of money? 20. While growing up, did you have any role models? If so, describe them. Have you ever worn the same outfit twice in one week? Do you text in class? What about your Mom? Have you ever undergone therapy of any sort? Do you still go Trick or Treating? 124. Last TV Show? - The Secret Circle I love it!! 127. Ever sang the national anthem? - Yea 131. Does it bother you when people say “LOOK HOW MUCH YOU’VE GROWN!” - Yesss!! 132. Can you say intelligent things around the guy you like? - Yes? 136. Worst grade you’ve ever gotten with a Letter? - Don't use letters in NZ so I guess not achieved! 137. Worst grade you’ve ever gotten with a number? - idk what this means 139. Would it bother you if you found out that your mother was pregnant? - No that’d be so cool 141. Do you edit your profile pictures before posting them? - Rarely 142. Be 100% honest. Do you have any friends who are uglier than you? - No. i’m the ugly friend 143. Do you believe in all that inner beauty crap? - I try If you could have a superpower, which one would you want? Do you have any strange habits? If so what are they? What are your Saturday's like? What do you think of Justin Bieber? What's the last song that got stuck in your head? If you could go on vacation for the next month with an unlimited budget, where would you go? What was your favorite movie as a child? Who and when was your first kiss? How many times have you changed your hair color? Has anything ever been stolen from you? Could you go out in public without wearing make-up? Would you rather spend the day at an amusement park or a water park? Are you single? Has any stranger ever done something good to you? Has anyone ever been caught completely off guard by a total act of complete and utter kindness from a stranger? Are you a taker or a giver? Who is the wisest person in your family? Worst roommate you have ever had Does it annoy you when people freak out about sports? What's the most random thing in your room? Name the "weirdest" relative you know. Are you on a laptop of desktop now? Within eye sight is there something pink? Do you cry when you see roadkill? What's your least favorite symbol on the keyboard? Is eating out fun? Do you dread posing for pictures? Do handshakes give you anxiety? Do you try to blend in with the crowd, or prefer to stand out? What is your best friend's name backwards? Would you ever work in a bookstore? Do you need to do laundry? Do you like Paramore? What's something you're really wanting right now? If you could dye your hair any color, what color would it be? Have you ever kissed someone who had braces? What do you currently hear? What is one feature that you don’t like? Do you delete pictures of you and your exes off of Facebook? Would you ever date a friends Ex? What’s the last book you read? What’s your favorite book? Who are your top friends? When was the last time you colored in a coloring book? Are you really a kid at heart? If you were mugged on the streets, what would you do? Do you know the difference between a fact and factoid? Say a random word. Does it piss you off when people worry too much? What was the last book you read? How are you currently feeling at the moment? Do you ever feel like you should have been born in a different decade? Do you like the winter? What's the biggest city where you live? If you live in America, what will you do if we suffer total collapse? What are your plans for this weekend? So what's going on this week? Did you enjoy summer? Do you have a reason to smile right now? Has anyone called you heartless? What made you smile today? Do you live near your best friends? If you were given the chance to be immortal, would you take it? Where would you go if the need of cash wasn't there to limit you? Is it better to tell the truth or save a friend's feelings? How does one fall in love? How does one know you've got the "one"? How does one give without expecting anything in return? How does one live your hopes everyday? Ask about her thoughts, experiences, ideas, dreams, hopes...and private life When your watching a movie, someone walks in halfway through and asks "whats happening" or "what did I miss"? What was the most extroverted thing you've ever done? - What’s your favorite band’s name? or musician? - Does a guy sound gay if he says it is purple? - What's your favorite Superhero? - Do you brush your teeth twice a day? - What is life to you? - Do you think you are a good talker or a good listener? - Do you like to party? (if yes) How much do you party? - How many people know all your secrets, I mean, everything about your life? Count them. (if she doesn't which she wouldn't; give her numbers - 3, 4, 5, 6? if she says 6, conclude that 'I am 6 people behind in knowing you') - Do you know how to fire a weapon? - Do you think reptiles are hideously ugly or cute? - Have you ever slapped a guy? - Has a guy ever slapped you? except your father/ brother/ cousins/ teachers/ friends/strangers. Any tattoos or pierced body parts? What do you do for exercise? What is on your bedside table? What was your best Halloween costume for Halloween? If you could play any instrument, which would you play? Name a singer that you can't stand the sound of. If you were to perform in the circus, what would you do? If you were a kitchen appliance -- what would you be and please make the sound of that appliance? How much time do you spend on - Facebook, Twitter, Myspace or Youtube? What is the best restaurant you ever ate at? Have you ever been mentioned in a newspaper? If you could get free airfare - name a country you would visit. What is your education - do you have a college degree? If you had to choose a sport to watch - would it be Football or Basketball? What is your favorite curse word? Have you ever gone skinny dipping or streaking? First thing you wash in the shower? What body part do you get caught staring at? Beverage of choice? Do you own an iphone, blackberry, camera phone or an ipod? Are you a shopaholic? What is your favorite Disney movie? What was your favorite childhood television program? What was the last concert you went to? How much schooling have you had? Name three things you really like to do. Who are your friends? Describe these people. Are all people truly created equal? Describe your fighting style: drunken master or angry monkey? What do you believe makes a successful life? Do you like interacting with large groups of people? Which is your favorite season and why? What makes you laugh? What shocks or offends you? Do you have any pet peeves? If you had a lot of money, where would we go on vacation? What is your idea of an ideal boyfriend/girlfriend? What are some of the little things you appreciate about your life? What is your favorite kind of pie? How is/was your relationship with your parents? What's your favorite part of your job? What's your favorite movie to watch over and over again? Best concert? What music are you listening to these days? What's your favorite thing to do on a Saturday night? If someone told you they saw me with another guy/girl, what would your first reaction be? If given a choice, which farm animal would you want to be? Why? Can you make the sound? Do you believe in the existence of soul mates and/or true love? What "bad" thing did you do as a kid that your parents never found about? - Ask about her family. - Is she from a big family? - Does she want a family? - Was she abandoned by her family? - Do you want kids? - Do you want marriage? She needs to know things too you know. - Test her knowledge - Read anything interesting lately? - Talk about schools, homeschool - Some guys like smart chicks. The best way to find out is talk about something ultra intelligent and see how many questions she asks or how much she knows on the subject. - Test her knowledge about God (theology) - Test her on languages - cultures - Talk about Me, Myself & I - Talk about yourself. Talk about what you like and dislike and maybe you will find out sooner than later that you two are a match or maybe you are not. - Some girls would rather listen than talk and some guys would rather talk than listen - Are you a traveler? Have you traveled anywhere special? - Your Favorite Foods & Drink? - What's in your fridge? - - Good Taste - The food you are eating - or the clothes she is wearing are great subject matter. - Do you have something to offer in the way of fashion or cuisine? Show off because girls like those subjects and are impressed by comprehension of them. - Any career plans? - People with a formal education love to talk about where they went to school - and what they studied because it took up a big chunk of their life and some stay very close to their alma matter by attending games and school functions such as fund raisers. - Current News - You may talk about what is going on locally or nationally that affects you personally then that will show you if there is any stimulus being invested from her. - What is one day you'd like to relive? Your Favorite Day? - What's one thing about you that would surprise me? - What do you do for a living? - important is observing if they are passionate and positive about it. - How's your job? -- COULD BE BAD IDEA! - The workplace or our careers consume a great deal of time for each of us so it is not a stretch to talk about what we do for a living and how we are affected by it. - Stay away from badmouthing employees or bosses because that sounds bitter and you don't that. - So what do you find attractive? - Your Ideal Dinner Guest - If you could invite a group of famous people, living or dead, to a dinner party, who would they be? - What's your favorite dessert? AND would you share it? - Where do you feel most relaxed? - Got any friends? - Your Free time? Does she roller blade, collect stamps or dance? How about sports? What kind of music does she like? These are the questions you must ask to determine how much of a bond exists between the two of you. - Future. Now, assuming she is having a good time and she is looking at you with that sparkle in her eye... In other words, if her body language is positive, you can look ahead and talk about other things you could do together in the future. Admittedly, you do not want to rush too far ahead and scare her off, but if she's enjoying herself, chances are she'll be curious to see what other great adventures you have in store for her. On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you agree with the statement that the world we live in is a very unpredictable and dangerous environment? General Conversation Questions: Is X one of your passions?
|